Here I am sitting on the grass in a park, with my headphones on listening to Angus and Julia Stone. It’s a beautiful sunny day. There’s a light breeze. There are big white fluffy clouds in the sky and my soul is calm.
Today is my first “work” day away from home since I had my eldest child four years ago. I’ve worked here and there over the past few years, in between babies and newborns, but always from home. Generally, I’ve worked at night or early mornings. Sometimes, I work when the children have a sleep or are plonked in front of the television. There”s times I”ve had no choice but to work while the kids have been running around me or pulling at my arm screaming, while I quickly finish a phone call. I”ve been known to breastfeed with a phone pressed to my ear or make a bottle and feed a toddler all with one arm, while also shoving biscuits into the hand of another child. One time when trying to line up an important interview for a magazine article I was writing, one of my children came into the office shouting: “I”ve got poo on my hands”. В And she did. I was mortified at the time, but now I laugh when thinking about it. Working from home is a juggle, but at least you can do it in your pajamas.
This morning I left the house with my laptop. Kissed my children and husband good bye and left for the day. “Have fun at work,” the girls yelled out. “I love you”, my husband whispered as he kissed me.
I’m calling it work, but today I’m not getting paid to do anything, but I’m calling it work so the girls think I’m working. So they understand that both men and women work, not just Daddy. Today I’m doing my own thing. Next week, I’ll start working on more effectively marketing our business. Next week, I might have some other paid work, but this week I have a whole day to write.
It feels so wonderful to just sit on the grass, quietly listening to music, tapping away on my computer. Tapping away to the beat of the music. Lost in my own mind. Quiet in my own thoughts, with no-one asking for things. No plans, nowhere to be. Just me.
It’s quite strange having no restrictions, having personal freedom. The day drags on, but in a nice way. I start it by meeting a friend for a coffee and at the end of my day I drive to the beach and I sit on a chair looking out at the waves. These waves.
It’s amazing what you can do in a day when you don’t have to also worry about three little people. And I only call home once to check out how my husband”s coping and even then I call because I want to tell him about this amazing beef and horseradish roll I’d just eaten. I can hear his smile through the phone. He can hear my smile through the phone. He knows when I come skipping through the door tonight, all light headed and relaxed, scooping the children up into my arms, that I’ll be a happier me. It’s amazing what a day does to revitalise someone.
There’s a breeze blowing, the sun is shining, the music is quietly playing in my headphones. I am tapping away on my computer. My soul is quiet.В
Glad you had such a lovely first day and wishing you many, many more. It’s such a nice feeling to reclaim even just a little part of yourself after having kids….But also knowing that you wouldn’t swap what’s waiting at home for you for all the money in the world.
Trish
x
What a lovely way to work…. What a lovely way to come home…. That is how life should be….
Love it! Well done on finding that time, and enjoying it. x
Oh, Bianca … that is such a gorgeous blog … my soul feels refreshed just for reading it. This is my first week at home alone (during school hours). I’m loving it and tomorrow I have a hair treatment, mani and pedi booked. One day a month WILL be mine x
Oh Bianca, this sounds wonderful! A whole day, all to yourself and being the one to do the kissing goodbye and walking out of the door to go and do something you love – brilliant. Of course I’m green with jealously.
That sounds (and looks) like heaven. Glad you had a great day.
That sounds (and looks) like heaven. Glad you had a great day.
Isn’t that more distracting than poo?!?! Congrats! x
I envy you. How I envy you. But it proves a point – we all of us, need head and soul space to replenish our energies and happiness. The overall effect is good for all those around us.
Wow. Bliss. What I wouldn’t give for a day like this. Thank you for sharing this with us.
Sounds like bliss. i like your idea of ‘work’….I had to go away overnight from my girls for the first time and we told them I was going to work. They were happy to accept it. I have a friend who tried that and her daughter replied: Mummies don’t work, Mummies go shopping!
Bliss! But sadly I find my work days away from the kiddos go far too quickly – before I know it it’s pickup time and it all starts again. Nice while it last though 🙂
xxxCate
WHat a lovely post! I can remember so well that amazing feeling of having no-one to think of but yourself for a few hours – and also how strange it seems and how uncomfortable it can be, no matter how long you’ve been looking forward to it. I’m at the other end of the spectrum now as my youngest left home in April. I thought I might find it difficult but actually, I feel just like you do now – free!
Wonderful.
LCM x
“It’s quite strange… having personal freedom”
Not a phrase that one would generally relate immediately to being a parent, but more so to religious restrictions in the middle east, but so applicable to parenthood. We lose that ability as soon as we conceive: food restrictions, clothing restrictions, then after birth, time and sleep and ability to shower alone.
You can only appreciate the simplest freedoms when you’ve lost them, willingly or otherwise.
Brilliant post.
Your husband sounds ace.
Beautiful. Well done for making it happen, sometimes it takes so much effort to just get out the door. Loving the new avatar pic. Kirstyxx
Good for you. Your work day sounds like pure and simple bliss.
sounds gorgeous. I imagine with three children a bit of time out is a must. Lovely.
ps I like gin too. 🙂
What a timely post! Today was my first day of a shared childcare arrangement with a friend. I had both children this morning and she will have Stella next Tuesday, the world is my oyster on Tuesday afternoon, what will I do first? Get my nails done, go for a walk, meet a friend for coffee, flop on the couch? Or actually do what I am supposed to do with my childfree time – work on my photography business!!!!! Your day “working” sounds divine, thanks for stopping by my blog, I too am trying to get round to “meeting” everyone coming to the conference, its going to be such fun!
Sounds like the most amazing day ever! I swoon!
Hi Bianca,
Rose from the Sydney Writers’ Centre here. I saw your comment on our blog, and followed it back here. Sounds like perfect day, and so beautifully written.
I’m also going to the Aussie Bloggers Conference, and so make sure you come and say hi!
your day sounds heavenly 🙂 love angus and julia stone and writing too! might have to show this post to my husband and leave a really big hint!
found you through this is taryn! now a follower.
Sounds absolutely divine!
Thanks for stopping by my blog- i’m starting to get excited about meeting some lovely faces at AusBlogCon!
One word…..envy! So glad you could enjoy that day. Thanks for visiting my blogs too. Yay for the conference 🙂
Great post. I still feel this way over days to myself. I’ve been working around my boys for seven years. This year, Mr4 is in preschool three days a week and it feels like such a luxury. And yet there’s still never enough time to get all the work done…
Its so true. A day to yourself can do wonders and it is amazing what you can get done when it is only you that you need to think about! I love those sort of days, though they are few and far between here as well.
Glad you called it work too. That’s what we tell our daughters too, because I usually am doing something work related.
Thanks for the comment and follow on my blog. Great idea to check out all the attendees of the conference! 🙂
How awesome that your family fosters your need to just ‘be’. There’s nothing more wonderful than a day that kind of drags on, particularly when you are a Mum.
Thanks for joining my blog- I look forward to spending some time at yours as well .
Hope your weekend is as wonderful as your Wednesday xx
I love that you did this for you! As a person who only works during the school term (lecturing) I found myself going a bit silly the last few weeks as I haven’t worked properly since November. I feel a million times better than I did at the beginning of the week after having the Bebito stay at Grandma’s for 2 days. I worked like crazy in those 2 days to fit everything in that I needed to but am so glad I took the break.