It Takes A Village… to raise a child. So, I’m asking bloggers from my village to each write a message for me to pass on to my girls. If you’d like to write one, let me know.
This week’s message to my girls is from the loveliest gal in the world Cat, who writes the blog Wouldn’t It Be Loverly.
Your wise, talented and very loving Mum has asked me to pen some words of advice to you and I hope you don’t find what I have to say causes too much in the way of making you roll your eyes or mutter, “silly old bag” under your breath, but here is what I would tell my daughter if I had one.
I don’t have daughters, I have sons. Not having a daughter is something I know I will miss, but I have come to accept that it’s my responsibility to raise two wonderful boys who will become wonderful men who will stand as your equals in a world where both men and women are given equal chances.
Sometimes, not getting what you want is the best thing that could ever happen. You’ll find a way to get it or something much better will come along.
A balanced life is elusive – you will always feel the tug of, “I should” in a lot of different ways. The important part is to embrace that and understand that at some times specific things need more attention than others. Never more so than if you one day have your own children.
Don’t be scared to love hard but don’t ever compromise yourself in the name of love. No one is worth giving up a piece of yourself to.
Listen to your inner voice. You know, the one that never, ever shuts up. If it is screaming something at you NEVER ignore it. My mum once told me that if I felt like I couldn’t tell her about what I was doing I probably shouldn’t be doing it. The inner voice can make you braver than you ever thought you could be, but will also stop you doing really stupid things too. And, if you do ignore it, use it as a lesson to yourself.
Close enough is good enough – don’t let anyone fool you in to thinking you can achieve perfection. This seems defeatist, but perfection is not achievable. You DO NOT need to be perfect, but you do need to be well, you!
Don’t be scared to dream big! Like really, really, really, really big! And don’t be scared of having a simple life either. This seems like conflicting advice, but both can be equally scary. It’s just important to be well, YOU!
Being a teenager doesn’t last forever. Thank God for that!!!
Read. A lot! Anything you can. It will bring joy to you in so, so, so many ways.