AS I type this it’s the last day of 2014. I’m happy, a little tired, but happy. I can hear my three girls playing. The sun is shining. There’s hardly a cloud in the sky. The neighbourhood is quiet, just the sounds of people heading out to spend time with friends, grab champagne and enjoy this glorious weather.

This time of year is the best, while many are still working, there are a heap who are not. Time slows down over Summer. The days roll into one long lazy afternoon. The nights are lingering and luxurious. People take the time to sit with each other, chat and reacquaint themselves with those they care about. Time often stands still so you have the opportunity to reflect.

This is not the time to pick apart your flaws. This is not the time to chastise yourself for not achieving all the unattainable goals you set 12 months ago. This is not the time to be your own worst enemy – you’ve done enough of that.

This is the time to be kind to yourself and most importantly be grateful, for you are here. Many are not.

Things might look shitty at the moment. I get it. Life is, at times, too horrible to imagine. You might not be able to see through the fog. You might feel like you are alone. You might feel like there’s no way out of the darkness. You might feel like a failure. You are not. You are a person with a bright future. You have a vibrant and luminous soul to lead you into the light. Reach out, there is always someone willing to grab your hand. This is not the time to give up.

So, instead of sitting in your moment of truth tonight when the clock strikes midnight and tearing yourself apart or when you find yourself dwelling on the negatives of your life as the sun rises – stop. Instead, think of all the beauty around you. It might simply be the way the sun flares through the clouds or the sound of the ocean as it laps at your feet. Just look for that one thing that makes you feel whole again.

And then write down a list of all the things that you’ve done which are good and aim to do more of that. Smile at someone walking down the street, ring someone who you know is having a hard time of it, volunteer or take your kids to the park and play hide and seek.

Embrace all that is good about yourself and this world we share with each other. For this is not the time to look inwardly at your own perceived flaws, it is the time to look outwardly and make changes, not to the size of your arse, but to help make life better.

This is not the time to write empty promises down for yourself which ultimately make you feel inadequate, for you are not inadequate you are amazing and special for you are here.

This is the time to celebrate.

Wishing you an amazing year ahead. Happy New Year.

Much love,

Bianca x