*Trigger Warning: this post deals with the issue of rape.
There’s been a lot of chatter in the media about rape. It seems there’s a heap of mixed messages out there for women and men about why some men rape women. If you are a swimming star apparently it is not “rape” it’s just a “bit of action”. I wanted to set the record straight for my three girls.
10 Reasons Men Rape Women. A Quiz.
- Women walk alone at night. Yes or no?
- Women walk alone in isolated spots. Yes or no?
- Women drink way too much. Yes or no?
- Women tease men. Yes or no?
- Women are gagging for it. Yes or no?
- She was asking for it. Yes or no?
- Women mean yes when they say no. Yes or no?
- Some women are sluts. Yes or no?
- Women deserve it for dressing like whores. Yes or no?
- She didn’t fight me, so she must have loved it. Yes or no?
If you answered YES to any of the above you are WRONG.
The correct answer is some men rape women because they are rapists. And that is the only correct answer.
There should be no confusion.
Rapists cause rape.
Yes. No means no. Being unconscious means no. Sometimes being awake but obviously saying no through body language and pure fear, the offender having to use force and hold a woman down, cover her mouth, or her shutting up because of being threatened with worse if she fights, means no. I could go on and on. If a couple is having consensual sex both will get up immediately and either tell those interrupting to go away or at least be embarrassed. One won’t run away and they other won’t be lying unconscious and brutalised on the ground behind a dumpster. Or in a bedroom. Or anywhere. It can happen anywhere.
entirely agree with you here. it is not a matter how your dress or how you behave. If a girl is unconscious by the sidewalk, it is not an invitation for asking sex.
If a girl is unconscious …help to get her home safely by doing whatever it takes to do so
The blame never shifts. Its als the rapist fault.
All people suggest is that you can try and reduce the chance.
Because they care. not because they are blaming.
And blaming – does it make you feel good? Doesn’t change the terrible ordeal or event.